Do not go into the faculty room, was the advice given to me
when I first started teaching. All they
do in the faculty room is complain. What
I realized is complaining is not only common among teachers, but you can find
it in any organization. The truth is
that it saps the energy out of you, prevents synergy and does not allow the
organization to perform at its best.
So, what can we do to break the cycle of complaining. Here are a couple of tips.
1-Focus on gratitude.
As mentioned in previous blogs if you do three good things each day it
will boost your happiness. Also, when
you are focused on being grateful this occupies your mind instead of negative
thoughts
2-Praise others.
Instead of finding or pointing out what is wrong about things try to
find the positive. Look for things that
people around you are doing well and praise them. What has been found is that work places that
are extremely successful have a 3-1 ratio.
That is three positive statements for every negative statement.
3-Let go. I try to
practice forgiveness each night and let go of the things that bothered me
during the day. What truly amazes me
about this exercise is that I can feel the tension leave my body which allows
me to focus on things that I can control.
4-Meditate-Scientific research shows that meditation gives
you a boost of energy and promotes health.
So, when things are getting you down or you start to feel like
complaining, take a moment for yourself.
Habits are very hard to break. I challenge you to pick one of these things
and implement them every time you are about to complain. It will help you live a happier and more
productive life
I believe that complaining is just a part of our countries and global culture at this point. People almost never focus on the positives and if they do it is typically on others successes but not there own. An obvious example of people never focusing on positives is in our news and various social media feeds. On television main stream news stations rarely, if ever, focus on anything positive. People then typically move onto social media which contained highly tailored content, only displaying the best of peoples lives and never the negative.
ReplyDelete- Henry Jones
Complaining is a coping strategy many people use to vent their frustration about work, relationships, and other little things in life. However, complaining does nothing except extend the duration of the event one is frustrated with in the first place. Habits are hard to break, and it takes time to not worry about all the little things in life. However, it is important to note that those who have it 'hardest' in life generally tend to complain less than those who have a 'walk in the park'. Overall, people complaining is inevitable, it is best just to let things go.
ReplyDeleteRyan Kowalczyk
As a society people are complaining more and more even though our quality of life is better now than ever before. I have found that no matter what type of environment or conditions people live in they will always find reasons to be unhappy. The way to stop complaining is to focus on the good aspects of life instead of the bad, that will give you less reason to complain and you will be happier.
ReplyDelete- Charlie Albertson
With people being in contact constantly, through social media and cell phones, we see more complaining than ever. The internet gives people a voice and people are free to give their comments on just about anything. This often starts arguments or nitpicking. I feel that giving everyone a voice causes complaining and there is no true solution.
ReplyDeleteGavin Peters
DeletePeople are complaining more often because I believe access to the internet and access to a smartphone provides people the ability to make their opinion heard. Of course everyone has a opinion and they all are not the same which lead to many arguments and constant fighting. No solution can come from everyone bickering over who is right. We must come to our senses and look for a solution instead of stating who is right and who is wrong.
ReplyDelete- Brandon Hawkins
Not gonna lie Mr.Bressler I really miss these, can’t wait till you start posting them again.
ReplyDeleteNow on to the blog at hand. I think those are great coping methods to stop yourself complaining. Complaining in my eyes is one of the most inefficient things you can do. A trick that I used when I was the team captain of my robotics team was to make a rule that said, anyone who presents a problem must present a solution, even if said solution does not work, the trying to fix the problem is what counts. This drastically improved the morale and the fortitude of my team. Anyone can notice that once you only complain about something it makes everyone else more irritable and lazy. If you present a solution when you talk about something that is not done to its top capabilities, then instead of dis-hearting your group, you embolden them to get the presented solution done.
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