Are You certain?

 If you asked me 10 years ago what was the best way to teach, I am sure that I would have given you an answer. I also think that my answer would have been phrased in such a way that my approach was the best. Now, however, I am less certain of most things and more curious. 

When another teacher suggests a different strategy or method, I am now much more inclined to ask questions so that I can understand the reasoning. I’ll go watch them teach so that I can see the context of these strategies. What I now realize more than ever is that there are many ways to get students to learn. 

I am trying to apply this to approach all areas of my life. It now amazes me how certain some people are about so many issues. If Covid has taught me anything, it’s that there is no certainty. As we learn more about the disease, the science changes, as does how we should try to keep ourselves safe. 

This is not to say I do not have an opinion. However, instead of trying to prove myself right or judging how others think, I will think about what the other side of the argument is.  

One of the goals of school is to get students to think critically—to take in all sides of an issue and allow the newfound facts to change your mind. 

My challenge to everyone is to reach out to a person who thinks differently than you. I think you will find out in the end that, even if they have a different perspective, they want the same things out of life that you do. 

While I am not certain is this right approach, I am curious about your thoughts. 

To build or not to build

 I overheard a couple of freshman parents talking about their sons’ schedules.  They were trying to make sure that their kids were taking the most rigorous classes possible.  They also wanted to make sure that their sons were involved in as many clubs as our school had to offer.  After all, that’s the way to get into the most competitive colleges, one father said. 

My first thought was, wow, these kids are not really going to enjoy the next four years at our school or the four years after that in college, as they are getting pushed to build a resume that I don’t think even impresses admissions directors or employers 

Freshmen, how about instead of packing the schedule so that you have no room to breathe, you take the lightest schedule possible?  This allows you to use the extra time in your first year to explore both the classes and the clubs that interest you.  Once you find what interests you, it’s easier to build your schedule around it

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Focus your energies on the activities and classes that spark your interest.  There might only be one activity that interests you, and that’s okay.  Colleges and employers are looking for people who pursue interesting things.  If you think you would make a great guest on a radio or TV talk show, you are on the right path. 

Use your time in both high school and college to explore and cultivate your interest, not to build your resume.  It will lead to a more enjoyable and beneficial educational experience. 

New Start

 

As we were driving our son to college to begin his first year, he was nervous yet excited.  The thrill of starting a new journey often coincides with wondering if you will fit in.  Whether it’s a new job, new school, or a new class, you wonder, “Do I belong here?”

Greg Walton, a Stanford psychologist, has done a lot of research on belonging.  The first thing to realize is that many people share the same feelings.  The only difference is that they might be good at hiding how they feel, so it seems like they are adjusting faster than you are. Don’t compare yourself with others only with yourself: Are you doing better today than yesterday?

The feeling of not belonging will go away after a time.  Psychologists estimate that it takes 50 hours to develop a friendship.  Turning that friend into a good friend might take 200-300 hours. So be patient, give yourself some time.

And realize that we all grow at different rates.  New students, have confidence that the admissions director accepted you into the school.  They have years of experience, and they know you can handle the workload.  The same approach can be applied to a new job.  Recognize that the people hiring you know what they are doing and feel confident you can do the job.

Take a minute and ask more-seasoned veterans how they felt when they first started.  Many seniors will remember wondering if they belonged, and things worked out fine for them.  Use these veterans as role models demonstrating that even though they had self-doubts at the start, they are now excelling.

Finally, the last challenge is for us veterans.  It is important to reach out and help newcomers feel like they belong.  I know that the times I started a new job, the people who reached out made a world of difference.